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Childhood ~ choose your words wisely

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This was my facebook status one day last week:
“Not normally one to judge because parenting’s hard work but, “shut up before i slap you!!!!!!” Heard on school run… “
I’m not always one to update my status every day, but I felt compelled to share this. Because I was truly horrified, truly shocked, truly saddened.  We all know that parenting can be hard work and I meant it when I said that I’m not one to judge. If it works for you, then go ahead…. If the child is happy and loved.
But judge I did. I couldn’t stop myself from looking at the parent and child. Our little bear did the same. She had heard too.  So without really thinking I showered her with praise – as if in an attempt to dissolve the negativity and harsh words she had just heard.
One of my friends commented on my status that it makes you wonder what goes on at home.   Indeed it does.
Children are like sponges. As a parent, I see it every day. They copy us in actions AND words. The younger years are crucial in building confidence and self-esteem…
I love words and I’m very careful about the words I use in front of, and towards, our little bear. This poor child on the school run doesn’t stand a chance…
What are your thoughts?

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Parenting: read all about it

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There are so many sources of information on parenting aren’t there?  In paper, ebook, websites and forums (and quite possibly many more!)

From not feeling quite right but not being able to put our finger on it and therefore googling (reputable websites only!) symptoms, it soon became clear that we were indeed pregnant.  That strange metallic taste in my mouth (how utterly bizarre!), wretching after breakfast (and beyond!), over-whelming tiredness and the lusting after chips and milkshake!  Yes, we were pregnant and we were about to embark on a tumultuous journey into parenting.   Aside from the complications, we were excited as the next parents-to-be and we bought ourselves a little book in a charity shop.  We were yet to be over the 3 month hurdle and I didn’t dare buy it ‘just in case’, such was my worry at the time.

But once over that hurdle, I couldn’t wait to get that copy home.  The book was a week by week guide to how the foetus develops in your womb.  There were so many facts and figures, it really started to sink in just how incredible, how amazing, how miraculous life really is.

I can’t actually remember what the book was called now unfortunately.  But to a mum-to-be, it was well-thumbed and excitedly digested… well except in the mornings after breakfast, just before lunch and just before bedtime.  Dam you ‘morning’ sickness!

What about you?  What did you enjoy reading about when you were a parent-to-be?  Or what do you wish you hadn’t read?  Comment or tweet me.

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding ‘Working Mum Guilt’. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

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So what do you think to CBeebies ‘Topsy and Tim’?

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Let’s face it, ‘Topsy and Tim’ on CBeebies isn’t very realistic really is it?  Now, don’t misunderstand me here. I know that it’s an adaptation of the popular books.  But I had high hopes for the children’s TV series, because I was a huge Topsy and Tim fan in my childhood.  And I do enjoy watching the new series.  In fact it’s one of my current favourites, but the truth is that us parents need to relate!

Yes, the twins are cute and quaint but first up, we’ve never seen anything close to a meltdown from either the twins or parents.  The closest we have come was when Tony Welch and Vinda came to play and a catastrophe was in the midst.  But pizza came to the rescue.  And they all lived happily ever after.  We’ve also seen milk get spilt on ‘King twin Tim’.  Tim threw a bit of a strop and Topsy’s bottom lip wobbled.  But big deal and no, I’m sorry, I don’t buy that!  The actors are great and granted, ‘mummy’ doesn’t get to drink any tea, never mind a hot cuppa, or sit down.  But just once (or maybe twice!), I’d like to see how she deals with a full on tantrum.  Or two.  At the same time.  Wicked aren’t I?!

It was interesting to read what one of the creators Jean Adamson thought about it.  Read it yourself here.  What do you think?

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

Thank you.

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‘The Pumping Mama’ is my Blog of the Year 2013

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Thanks for reading this special blog post.  I would like to present a star for ‘Blog of the Year 2013’ to The Pumping Mama.

Despite the best efforts of the ‘experts’ and those who have experienced it first hand, Post Natal Depression is still a bit of a taboo.

Talking about it, even thinking about it, gets in the way of everything pink (and blue…) and fluffy that is preparing for a baby, having baby and bringing up a baby.

Nobody, but nobody wants to experience PND (or any kind of depression) be it themselves or through someone else.

‘Thankfully’, because I’ve experienced mild depression many years ago, I can recognise the pokes and niggles of the ‘black dog’ in my field of vision and I can nip it in the bud.

I really look forward to blogs from The Pumping Mama.  Her posts are frank.  They ‘pull’ you into her experiences of PND but not in such a way that you can’t dust yourself off and leave by the stage door.  I’ve got a lot of respect for her.  She’s got the guts to admit she has PND, to talk about it, and to bare her soul.

Her feelings of guilt and resentment come through in her blog but even deeper, even stronger is her love for her family.

I hope you will pop over to say ‘hello’ to The Pumping Mama and learn a bit more about what contribution factors led to her experience of PND.

Here is one particular post that particularly touches me titled ‘Please be grateful’.

…and this one is about her breast feeding journey ~ ‘My breast feeding journey’.

http://www.thepumpingmama.wordpress.com

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To get involved with ‘Blog of the Year 2013’, here’s how to pay the award forward.

1 Select the blog(s) you think deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2013’ Award.

2 Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there are no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ the blog(s) with their award.

3 Let the blog(s) that you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the instructions with them – (please don’t alter the instructions or the badges!)

4 Come over and say hello to the originator of the ‘Blog of the Year 2013’ Award via this link –http://thethoughtpalette.co.uk/blog-awards-2/blog-of-the-year-2013-award/

5 You can now also join the ‘Blog of the Year’ Award Facebook page – click the link herehttps://www.facebook.com/groups/BlogoftheYear/ and share your blog posts with an even wider audience.

6 And as a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog … and start collecting stars…

Blog of The Year 2013 Award

The instructions for this award are simple:

 

1 Select the blog(s) you think deserve the ‘Blog of the Year 2013’ Award

2 Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you have chosen – there are no minimum or maximum number of blogs required – and ‘present’ the blog(s) with their award.

3 Let the blog(s) that you have chosen know that you have given them this award and share the instructions with them – (please don’t alter the instructions or the badges!)

4 Come over and say hello to the originator of the ‘Blog of the Year 2013’ Award via this link – http://thethoughtpalette.co.uk/blog-awards-2/blog-of-the-year-2013-award/

5 You can now also join the ‘Blog of the Year’ Award Facebook page – click the link here https://www.facebook.com/groups/BlogoftheYear/ and share your blog posts with an even wider audience.

6 And as a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with the award – and then proudly display the award on your blog … and start collecting stars…

Yes – that’s right – there are stars to collect!

 

Unlike other awards which you can only add to your blog once – this award is different!

When you begin you will receive the ‘1 star’ award – and every time you are given the award by another blog – you can add another star!

There are a total of 6 stars to collect.

Which means that you can check out your favourite blogs – and even if they have already been given the award by someone else – you can still bestow it on them again and help them to reach the maximum 6 stars!

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

 Thank you.

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Ode to ‘Man Flu’ ~ The Tissue Issue

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Ode to ‘Man Flu’ ~ The Tissue Issue

The common cold is, well,common – it’s a virus
That goes, well, ‘viral’ quicker than Miley Cyrus.
There are 3 in our house and we’ve all got a cold
But for the ‘man’ it’s the worse thing ever to behold.

As ever, I soldier on through tissues and sneezes
But hubby moans n whinges, I’m sick of his wheezes.
To him, it’s ‘man flu’; oh please, man flu?!
To me it’s a commotion and such a to-do.

My head is so woolly, my nose is so sore,
Any more whinging, he can sleep on the floor.
Our first aid cupboard is full with pills and with potions
To deal with man flu and other such commotions.

All night long, I’m not joking, I hear cough, I hear splutter,
“Oh man up,” under my breath you may hear me mutter.
“Here, take this ‘dear’, you’ll sleep better,” I say,
And as the fairer sex I ‘keep calm and carry on’, come what may!…

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-eclampsia… And visit my Facebook page or follow me @ComplicatedPreg.
Also available ~ my indispensable guide to avoiding Working MumGuilt. Whether you’re about to return to work or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the Guilt today!… And visit my Facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt.

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Are you a ‘mumpreneur’ who needs a helping hand?

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Mumpreneur Mentor can lend a hand

 

If you want to break away to the promised land.

 

 

 

A wealth of good knowledge, friendly and nice,

 

She’ll guide you and help you with a word from the wise.

 

 

 

A mum of two, a wife for good measure,

 

With tips and tricks, she’s a real treasure.

 

 

 

She’s passionate and knows that ‘anything goes’,

 

With a family to feed that keeps you on your toes.

 

 

 

The balance – where is it?  It’s over here

 

Click the link and it will all become clear.

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

Thank you.

 

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A Fussy Faddy Journey…

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One gone, two gone, three gone, four…

Five gone, six gone, seven gone, more!

More? Are you sure? Really?

Yes, and I’m losing… well, very nearly.

 

She’s always eaten well has our little one

And we try to encourage by making meal-times fun.

But you might describe her food as ‘unadventurous’

Because she won’t eat greens for anyone, especially not us.

 

Yet this last week has raised our eyebrows somewhat,

With the question, “Mum…Dad…is that carrot hot?”

Trying not to choke with surprise on our chicken casserole,

Our faddy food journey has reached a turning point, a goal.

 

On her plate each night, the veggies have been jostling for room,

I could name them all with ease, thanks to Mr Bloom.

 

So here’s a message for stressed out mummys,

Don’t worry if they won’t have veggies in their tummys.

They may change their mind one day… when? It matters not one jot

But when they do, make sure their greens are not hot!

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

Thank you.

Picture source: www.growfruitandveg.co.uk via Pinterest

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How to win a stand-off with your child…

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So, have you ever had a stand-off with your child?!  Well who hasn’t?…

To parents and non-parents alike, here’s a funny old tale:

It’s bedtime.  We’ve had the bath and our little bear has decided that she doesn’t want a story downstairs.  Okay, no problem.  I tell here that in 5 minutes it’s time to go upstairs, clean teeth, story in bed and night night time – as it is every night.  This routine has worked wonders for us in truth.  I’m not trying to be a smug mummy by saying that.  Yes, we have our over-tired nights where Daddy’s working and she will push and push (and push) and I wonder if I’m doing it ‘right’.  But generally, the bedtime routine is great for us.

This night however, like an episode of Holby City, I knew something was afoot…

Our little bear asks if she can take 2 of her princess books to bed to read to her teddies.  I tell her that she can, but I have to take the DVD out of one of them first because it doesn’t go in her bedroom. This is because she once made something at playgroup with a CD.  It snapped at home and was razor sharp.  Too dangerous for her bedroom.

I digress…  I tell her the DVD lives downstairs.  Knowing this was not going to be the right answer, I told myself to stand firm.  Sure enough, our bear got a vice grip on the books and rang off with them, through the kitchen, through the hall and up the stairs!

At this point, I didn’t want to turn it into a game but equally I knew she was having a paddy, a tantrum, call it what you will, and I didn’t want her to trip up and hurt herself on the stairs.  Grasping the books like a vice, she stood on the top step and told me, through tears, that she wanted to take the DVD to bed.

Firmly I told her to move onto the landing where it was safe because we don’t stop and talk on the stairs.  Again, I told myself to stand firm, keep my voice level and not to grab the book – otherwise she’s won – I mentally said.

It did cross my min that this truly was a stand-off with our 4 year old!  Oh boy!

Vice-like grip, back turned to me, bottom lip firmly out.

“E, give me the book please. I’m going to take the DVD downstairs where it lives and you can have the book in your bedroom.”

After maybe 4 times of saying this, she slowly glanced sideways at me, backed herself onto my lap and ‘sort of’ let me hold the book at the same time as her.  She was still unsure.. I took the book, slid the DVD out, removed her from my lap and took it downstairs.

You thought it was over?  I knew it wasn’t!

One 4 year old face down on the landing carpet kicking her legs and screaming… not the calmest bedtime to be honest.

And we hadn’t even cleaned our teeth yet.

She wasn’t keen on this either.

So I stepped over her and said I was going to clean my teeth.  She looked up and asked me to do hers for her.  I won!!  Yeeees!

How did I win?  In my humble opinion , I stood my ground, I didn’t raise my voice, I didn’t snatch the book off her and I repeated what it was I wanted her to do.

And. I. Did. It.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not SuperMum or SuperNanny (but I’ll bet she would’ve been  proud!) but yeah, I stood my ground and I won.

And I did a cracking job of uncorking that bottle with my teeth afterwards…

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

 Thank you.

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Showing me who’s the bossy one…

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“Is there any chance you could pick up V up on Tuesday please?”

I was asked by a friend if I could pick up their little one from the childminder with our bear, and take him back to ours for a while.  A family illness meant they wouldn’t be able to collect on time.

Of course, it was no problem.  I mean, it can be hard enough to juggle work/childminding/life in general, without throwing in a curve ball.

Our little bear was uber excited at her friend coming to ‘my house’.  “Is V coming to my house?  Is he coming here? Yeeeaaaahh!!”  Cue an uncontrollable jumping bean…

Jump to Tuesday.  As the afternoon progressed, I was looking forward to picking up 2 jumping beans.  I was slightly nervous, admittedly.  I’ve been to playgroups before and had the odd ‘play date’ but have never actually ‘babysat’ and been responsible for another little one.  How would our little bear react to sharing her toys?  Would she play up?  How would V be after a long day playing? I would find out soon enough!

The time came and, safely inside our house, our little bear took V under her wing.  “This is where you put your shoes…this is where you put your coat and bag.”

I asked if either wanted the toilet.  Both did.  That was an experience in itself.  I’ve never dealt with boys’ bits!  Sleeves rolled up, hands washed and dried, it was back down the wooden hill to play with toys.

I stayed in the open plan lounge/kitchen preparing tea while the 2 jumping beans played.  It was a lovely position to be in: it meant I could keep an eye without intervering; also having been to numerous playgroups, I’ve never observed our bear with a peer without the other parent being on hand.  Given that both were tired and getting hungry, they both coped very well.

Our bear was a little bossy showing V her toys! “Play with this… would you like to play with this one now?… no this one…”

V was very placid and towing the line playing with ‘pink’ toys!

I survived the play date. We all survived.  In fact, we had a thoroughly good time.  I learnt that our little girl is a big boss!

She was full of it at bedtime and when she heard Daddy come home from work at 8.30, she called out to him from her bedroom.  He sat on her bed and heard all about it for 5 minute, before our little bear gave in and went off to fairy dreamland.  At lights out, she told me that V would be having nice dreams too.  Possibly not about fairies though…

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

Thank you.

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What a ‘to-do’…

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With half term knocking on the door, I knew I wouldn’t get done half of what I normally do.  So, I didn’t do a rigid ‘to-do’ list last week.

My to do list is usually a whirlwind full of mundane, going-through-the-motions things from food shopping to washing; and at the other end of the spectrum, the more random things like sorting out the damp patch on the wall, to sorting out life insurance.  The damp patch and life insurance never seem to get done.  So I knew they didn’t have a cat in hell’s chance during half term!

No, I decided that I would enjoy the quality time with our little bear without the guilt of an unticked to do list.  As a working Mum, I don’t need anymore stress or guilt, thank you very much.

With said to do list minimised this week, we have mostly been:

  • having a few lie-ins. Bliss!
  • making crispie cakes by the dozen
  • making bat wings for halloween
  • bracelet making
  • colouring-in
  • going through the whole toy food box and ‘cooking’

It’s been lovely and even, dare I say, quite relaxing.  One of the the most memorable moments was when our little bear asked me what I wanted in my ‘sandwich’.  Pretzel?  Lettuce? Crisps?  Soup?!?

“Yes Mummy, you can have a soup sandwich!”

As I’m handed my soup sandwich by my 4 year old, I say, “Yummy, thank you!”

So you see, we’ve been far too busy having fun to cross any of the grown-up things off the to do list.  You can see why I never get round to sorting out life insurance!  With that soup sandwich I think I should perhaps make it a priority.  Oh well, there’s always next week!…

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Read my emotional and inspiring true story ‘Diary of a Complicated Pregnancy’. Available now through my website at Virtually All Sorts. 50% of sales to the charity Action on Pre-Eclampsia. …and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @ComplicatedPreg

Also available – my indispensable guide to avoiding Working Mum Guilt. Whether you are about to return or have already started back, this book offers practical solutions and feedback from real Mums with real families in real situations. Covering topics such as Post Natal Depression, childcare options, yours and your child’s development and time management – Ditch the guilt today! … and visit my facebook page or follow me on twitter @WorkingMumGuilt

Thank you.

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